Things I would like to change in my life

Last week, a friend of one of my close friend passed away tragically in an accident. Her name was Rohini. Although, we never met with each other, I came to know a lot of things about her through my friend. She was the only child of her parents, their only hope in their post retirement lives. Rohini was on her way back to home while a drunken car driver rammed his car into her two wheeler. Rohini wore a helmet while riding, but the impact was so strong that her brain got badly damaged.

I was working in office that day while I came to know about that bad news. Her condition worsened as the day progressed. Though we never met each other, I was continuously praying for her life and giving hope to my friend. I was getting update after each hour, but finally Rohini lost the battle with life.

This incident made a lot of impact on my life, in particular my way of thinking about life. The faces of her parents flashed in front of my eyes. What about their life post their daughter’s demise? Would they ever have imagined such situation? How will they face their future? Let’s pray for her soul to rest in peace and to give her parents enough strength to embrace the future.

The incident reminded me of a speech given by “Ric Elias”, who survived from a plane crash a couple of years ago. The followings are some of the lessons he learnt from that incident. I am trying to elaborate on his lessons and relate it with the lessons I learnt from Rohini’s demise.

Everything can change within an instance:

We do take everything in our life for granted. Let it be our dear ones, our relationships, and our approach towards the life. We live our life as if we are going to exist on this planet forever. But all can change within an instance. I am not being pessimistic over here; rather I am trying to be realistic. So what can we do? Should we worry about our future and prepare for our death? No. Of course not. But we can change our outlook towards life. We can learn to live in the present and enjoy the taste of it. We can learn to avoid procrastination and try to do the things which we are supposed to do as early as possible. If we want to do something we like, but are not able to do so far, then try it now. Let it be a silly thing, don’t worry about others perspective. Just enjoy being in that moment

Eliminate negative energy from our life

Get rid of negative emotions from our life. A negative emotion can be anger, stress, ego, greed or anything which creates negative influence on our life. When I look back, I really regret about the time wasted by me because of these negative emotions. Getting rid of such emotions will help us to live a perfect life. Just imagine our life without any fight, disagreements, stress. Sounds great! After that incidence, I do not try to be right, rather I choose to be happy.

Be the best person in whatever role you are playing

Be the best person in whatever role you are playing in. Our role can change according to the age or situation. It can be anything like son/daughter, father/mother, mentor friend, etc. Try to be the best person in that role. We should be proud of whatever we did/achieved when we look back at the twilight of our life. The most important thing I want to do in my life is to be the best son for my parents and be the best father for my son. Above all. Above all !!.

I challenge the reader of this article to imagine if the same situation happens with you. Please don’t, but just imagine and just think about the things you would like to change before it. Time to take a step back and introspect.